Marriage is a partnership between two messed up people. Everyone brings baggage from the past and expectations into the marriage relationship. Many times the expections are unrealistic and we expect the other person to know what we want without even discussing it with them, or we assume we'll get our way, and if not, we'll simply change the other person until they're transformed into the person we think they should be to make us happy.   None of us are mind readers and it's not your spouses' job to make you happy.  That comes as a huge surprise to most people.   The majority of engaged couples have the idea that they'll get married and they'll live happily ever after or they'll just work out problems as they run into them.  This isn't a wise to approach to the holy institution of marriage.  Some foolishly have the idea somewhere in the back of their mind that if it doesn't work out their way and the other person fails to make them happy they'll simply divorce. 

When you're going to put something together it works much better to get out the instruction book so that the item will be assembled correctly and strongly without a lot of frustration (screaming, crying, jumping up and down, throwing things, and then giving up and walking away!).  We can make a real mess of things if we don't read and study the instructions. It's the same with marriage. We expect everything to go together and work properly with an hour of premarital counseling (if that). It doesn't work that way.   We get more instruction on how to drive a car than how to be married.  Many use the  flawed template of their parents' or grandparents' marriage.  The Holy Bible is God's instruction manual on how to be married and live a peaceful, full, and productive life.

I encourage you to get biblical premarital counseling, which includes homework, and then read every godly book and listen to every godly CD you can get your hands on.  You need to attend every seminar you can find about marriage.  God invented marriage and He knows the role each person must fulfill to make it work properly.  Unfortunately, many of God's instructions have been misinterpreted and used wrongly in the past  to give one partner an upperhand - God and His precepts have been misrepresented. 

I've assembled a short list of resources every couple (and I mean both of you) needs to get and study.  If you know of others I should recommend, please email me the information and I'll review it.